Shared parenting doesn't have to be a minefield fraught with conflict and contentiousness. Ohio couples who divorce who wish to enjoy peaceful shared parenting arrangements can certainly do so, though it may take a little work on the part of both parents. The first thing that might be helpful for them to keep in mind is that the welfare of the children should be a high--if not the highest--priority.

After all, divorce might sever the marriage between parents, but it doesn't automatically sever the family ties binding them together. They will always share a common bond due to the children they must usher through childhood and into adulthood. It may be hard for divorcing spouses to picture peaceful sporting events and graduation ceremonies in the future, but many exes do manage to make peaceful co-parenting work for them.

Along with putting children first, another helpful tip is to remember that one parent cannot control what happens in the other parent's household. While it may be tempting for one parent to micro-manage the other, the temptation should probably be avoided unless one ex has reason to believe the other is truly endangering the children's safety. It's one thing to show interest in what a child does while with the other parent, it's another thing to be constantly calling or interrogating the child when they're trying to spend quality time with the other parent.

Ex-spouses trying to make Ohio co-parenting work should likely also remember that child custody issues do not make it right to withhold child support. Causing financial strife for the other parent will only serve to harm the children meant to benefit from that support. One final bit of advice for co-parenting exes is that child-rearing is not a competition. Divorce doesn't mean that children have to pick one parent over the other, or that the non-custodial parent needs to try and buy their children's favor. The marriage might be over, but family is forever--especially when children are involved.

Source: Huffington Post, "You May Be Divorced, But You're Still a Family," Virginia Gilbert, Aug. 3, 2012