Like the rest of the nation, many Ohio marriages end due to the infidelity of one of the parties. When this happens, there is often an initial desire to "make the cheating party pay" for what they did. However, dragging that spouse through court to try to convince a judge that one party deserves more money because the other party was unfaithful could be a lengthy and expensive process. In the long run, both parties may benefit more from a collaborative divorce settlement.

In a collaborative divorce, the parties work with attorneys, financial advisers and therapists in order to come to a mutually agreeable settlement. This is where the spouse that was unfaithful can make some financial concessions to the other party. However, the benefits of collaborative divorce may go well beyond financial issues if the parties are willing to let it. The use of a therapist can help the couple move beyond the hurt, anger and resentment that often causes couples to drag each other through court.

Ohio couples that have prenuptial agreements have often already considered the possibility of infidelity. Many prenuptial agreements allow for certain concessions to the non-cheating party should the marriage end due to the infidelity of one of the parties. For those couples, the divorce process will be even less contentious.

It's never easy to discover that a spouse has been unfaithful. The hurt often goes well beyond the simple fact that one spouse cheated on the other. For a couple that is willing, collaborative divorce can not only help settle the financial issues, but it can also help the parties move beyond the circumstances that ended the marriage. This can become even more important for couples that have children since they will always be parents regardless of whether the marriage ends.

Source: CNBC, "Does Cheating Cost You in a Divorce?" Dec. 18, 2012