There are probably many people in Ohio that can attest to the fact that even if you know it's coming, hearing that your spouse wants a divorce is never easy. Most people would hope that their divorce isn't contentious and there are steps to take that may help keep it from becoming acrimonious. Many people may find they would prefer to be amicable and use collaborative divorce instead of having to battle it out in court.

It can be difficult not to panic when faced with the prospect of getting divorced. However, it may be necessary to move beyond the initial shock as quickly as possible. Finding out what rights and responsibilities each party in the relationship has can alleviate some of that panic. Finding out how the process works can keep one spouse from intimidating the other.

In order to be in a better position to negotiate a divorce settlement, both parties need to focus on ending the marriage amicably before moving on to other relationships. This can be especially important if there are children involved. Both parties will need to be focused on what it will take to run their own separate household. Creating a budget and knowing what will be needed in terms of child support and spousal maintenance can help make those negotiations go more smoothly.

It is possible to have an amicable divorce even if the marriage was not quite as happy. Instead of rushing into a courtroom, Ohio couples that are able to put their emotions aside and work together may benefit from collaborative divorce. Having people assist and advise the couple with regard to the issues that need to be dealt with in a divorce settlement can mean the difference between walking away with a fair and equitable settlement that both parties are satisfied with and leaving a courtroom unhappy and scared.

Source: Huffington Post, "The Stir: 6 Biggest Mistakes Moms Make in a Divorce," March 16, 2013